Ready for an Internal Spruce Up?
I’ve always loved spring. There’s just something in the air that makes me want to put on my cleaning clothes and tackle all of those things that get neglected throughout the year—the walk-in attic, closets, garage—you know what I’m talking about. And then there’s the part of sprucing up for spring that involves sprucing up our wardrobes and external appearance. That’s the fun part!
This issue is packed with lots of ideas for your spring spruce up, so I thought I’d share a little motivation that came to me in my inbox about some internal sprucing up from life coach, motivational speaker and author Teri Savelle Foy. Her tips aren’t about external things like a clean house or cute spring outfits, but an internal sprucing up of your confidence, outlook and interactions with others. I think the timing’s perfect!
Here are some of Savelle’s tips:
1. Stop speaking negatively about yourself. Do not let one negative comment come out of your mouth about yourself again. Stop saying, “I am too short.” “I’m fat.” “I look awful.” You believe yourself more than anyone, so cut that stuff out of your vocabulary. Practice speaking positive affirmations over yourself. Your words create your image— negatively or positively.
2. Compliment other people. When we feel bad about ourselves, we often project that feeling onto others in the form of insults and gossip. In order to stop this bad habit, begin complimenting others. As you engage in building others up, you will, in effect, build yourself up. Practice having a conversation with someone where you do not say a word about yourself to them. Look for ways to focus on them by complimenting their attributes or achievements.
3. Get back to working out. Who cares if you haven’t gone back to the gym since signing up two months ago. You can still go back! Focusing on your body in a positive way can help you make huge strides towards overcoming insecurities. Don’t forget, by working out, you realize what your body is capable of and what it can do for you. These positives will begin to drown out any negative opinions you may have about your appearance. Working out allows you to focus on your body in relation to fitness and health, as opposed to perceived flaws.
4. Stand up straight. If you think highly of yourself, you hold yourself high. It’s that simple. Instant result: You’ll appear and feel more confident.
5. Setting goals builds confidence. T.D. Jakes said, “To not have a plan and just wake up every morning to see what the day brings is to live like a fool.” A confident person thinks about what kind of impact they can have on their world. Set goals for yourself. Live on purpose.
6. Helping others builds confidence. Use your pain to help somebody else. Talk to a teenager. Share your story. Volunteer. Give where you see vision. Encourage someone. Focus on contributing to others and it will cause you to get you off your mind. That’s what being self-conscious is all about—focusing on self. You won’t worry so much about your own flaws when you’re looking for opportunities to give back.
Karin Calloway is a wife and mother of two young adults. She’s also a journalist and recipe developer who writes the Wednesday cooking column for The Augusta Chronicle. You can follow Karin at twitter.com/KarinCalloway. Check out Karin’s cooking blog at www.cookingwithkarin.com.