Moms: Gotta Love 'Em
“Honey, you look so good! Your jaw line is so defined…and you don’t have all those chins.”
All those chins? Leave it to my mother to deliver a compliment with an insult!
Why is it that this woman, who has been the biggest support system throughout my life, is also the woman who makes me feel most insecure? This is the same woman who told my sister during their summer beach visit that she, “Used to look so good in her clothes.” Gulp.
Don’t you know my sister felt great parading around in her swimsuit and shorts after that!
Amy and I have spent hours dissecting our mother’s lack of a filter. We love her—she’s smart, funny and generous. But what the heck has happened to her understanding of the phrase she said to us countless times when we were kids: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all!”
I spent a good part of the summer in bed. I was sick and unable to care for my family. During the worst weeks, my mother was by my side. She ran errands for me, took me to medical appointments, helped pull off the graduation party for my daughter, Maddy. She mothered me, and I felt so guilty for ever even thinking unflattering thoughts of her.
It was sweet and comforting to see how my mother could fill in for me as a mom…and yet be the mom that I needed when I was laid up in my bed. She was a blessing to me in many ways, not the least of which was giving me the reassurance that she would hold things together. Mama was my glue.
By the time I saw her in early July, I was healing nicely and feeling like my old self. I couldn’t wait for her to see me all better: I was wearing clothes (not pajamas), my hair was fixed and I was wearing makeup!
“Oh, you changed your hair color,” she declared. “I didn’t want to say anything before, but it was so wrong with your skin tone.”
JENNIE Montgomery anchors the evening news at WJBF-TV. She’s married to Scott and they have three children: Zack, 19, Maddy, 18, and Sky, 16.